midlife – Full and Unfinished

June 18, 2026

My Inner Voice is a Bully – And Three Things I am Doing to Shut Her Up

I have this voice inside me, you know the one. The inner monologue. The story you tell yourself. The narrator who never breaks the fourth wall. For some people it isn’t a voice but more like a running reel of imagery or emotions. For me, it is my voice, but a lot meaner. All the…

Things I Wish I Knew Before I Started Dating After Divorce

If you’ve been following along, you might have picked up on the fact that my marriage was a bit of a shitshow, and that I am currently wading through the wreckage, unpacking the aftermath, and wanting to find love again. I’ve had my share of struggles in the dating world. Struggles that landed me in…

Things I Learned in Therapy That I Wish I Had Known 20 Years Ago

I keep finding the bottom of myself and looking up for an outstretched hand. All I seem to find is a mirror. These are the things I learned this week that I wish I had known 20 years ago: Hyper-independence Is a Trauma Response I thought I was building a beautiful life, achieving the American…