• Who Am I: A Ghost Story

    I have built my life around survival and fear. That’s the honest truth. A good life, a prosperous and successful life. A life other people would see and feel envy. The job, the title, the salary, the house, the vacations, the education, the friends, the family. Warm, authentic, and outwardly enviable. But I found myself…

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  • Dating Apps Killed Love

    Thoughts on heterosexual marriage, divorce, dating. Note – I am referring to heterosexual relationships here because I am neither experienced in nor qualified to speak on behalf of same sex relationships or really anything related to the queer community. I am an ally, but it is not my place to speak on behalf of things…

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  • It’s been three years since I stood behind him as he tied that gray ribbon around a fragile branch of the hope tree. The anniversaries never get easier. “Don’t come back.” He said before the surgery. “Finish your vacation.” We left the Happiest Place on Earth a day early and drove home to Phoenix to…

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  • There’s this weird feeling, being so far down the road of life that I feel like I should have figured this out already while also finding myself finally knowing what I want. What a blessing to be standing in the doorway, the old me wishing me well as I walk away, and the woman I…

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  • Thoughts on Dating

    In your 40’s. With baggage and kids. In a digital world where introductions are 200 words or less and a couple of pictures showing your best side in the best lighting. In a million introductions, conversations that feel empty and meaningless, like being on a never ending carousel of cocktail party introductions with people you…

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  • I’m writing again, Mrs. Collins.For fun.  For the joy of it.  Because I have lived 42 years on this planet and I have a lot to say.  So stick around.  If you want.  I’m not telling you how to spend your time.  I use Oxford commas, and I put two spaces after the period and…

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