• I have this voice inside me, you know the one. The inner monologue. The story you tell yourself. The narrator who never breaks the fourth wall. For some people it isn’t a voice but more like a running reel of imagery or emotions. For me, it is my voice, but a lot meaner. All the…

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  • Look at her. She just worked out so her arm is shaking holding up the camera, blurring the top of the image as a result. Carpet that needs to be vacuumed. One of her familiars watching over her. She is radiant and smiling, strong and resilient. She is creative, bright, learning all the ways her…

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  • If you’ve been following along, you might have picked up on the fact that my marriage was a bit of a shitshow, and that I am currently wading through the wreckage, unpacking the aftermath, and wanting to find love again. I’ve had my share of struggles in the dating world. Struggles that landed me in…

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  • We are all starved for companionship and increasingly isolated, yet somehow more of us who are dating again after divorce, in our 40’s, are finding ourselves in serial dating situations against our will. Why? The dating landscape is a strange, barren hellscape these days. Don’t take my word for it – ask any of your…

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  • “You’re really not going to like it,” observed Deep Thought.“Tell us!”“All right,” said Deep Thought. “The Answer to the Great Question…”“Yes..!”“Of Life, the Universe and Everything…” said Deep Thought.“Yes…!”“Is…” said Deep Thought, and paused.“Yes…!”“Is…”“Yes…!!!…?”“Forty-two,” said Deep Thought, with infinite majesty and calm.” – Douglas Adams I’m going to be painfully honest here – sometimes life…

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  • I sat down recently to write about the end of my marriage. Someone needs to hear this, someone needs this story, I thought. I had 1000 or so words typed out and started shaking. I realized the details around the demise of my marriage still have a strong impact on me and may be better…

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  • If I had a dollar for every 40-something woman who made a comment about not being able to lose weight because of perimenopause, menopause, aging, genetics, moon phases, political affiliation or geographic location, I wouldn’t be so hard pressed to grow a blog following. I’m turning 42 next week. I get it. We have children,…

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  • Things I Learned in Therapy That I Wish I Had Known 20 Years Ago

    I keep finding the bottom of myself and looking up for an outstretched hand. All I seem to find is a mirror. These are the things I learned this week that I wish I had known 20 years ago: Hyper-independence Is a Trauma Response I thought I was building a beautiful life, achieving the American…

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  • “Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it a life.” – Robin Sharma The most interesting humans to me are the ones who have been devastated yet find the strength to recreate themselves out of the ashes of what came before. Who did not let their trauma define them or confine them. The…

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  • That’s right. My age is the answer to the meaning of life, the universe, and everything. (Name the book/movie…) When I turned 40, my optometrist informed me that my vision is going to change. Remember when your parents started holding small-lettered writing closer then further away before they could read it? Yeah. That happened to…

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